Taking Out the Trash

Vent

    When you see that word, what is the first thing that comes to your mind? Or what is the first thing you remember? When I see that word, it reminds me of the days that I threw a fit at my parents when they did not buy me the toys or deserts I wanted.  It also reminds me of the days that I shouted at my boyfriend just because we lost a game match.

    "Vent" is a way of expressing negative emotions onto an object, material, or even a person.  Everyone vents but does everyone do it appropriately? So, you may ask me, "What's your definition of appropriate?" My definition is,' without causing a negative impact'.  Venting does not necessarily cause a negative impact if you know how to vent correctly. And what that means is that when you are "trashing" out your emotions on people, what happens is that the very same people that are receiving that "trash" may start to get affected. They may start to feel angry, sad, hurt, or even unfair. Why? Because what did they do to deserve the very emotions that you are trashing out on them? The people around you whether is it your friends, family members, spouses, or whatever, are not a dumpster for you to throw your emotions recklessly while expecting them to understand everything you have just told them. This is because they are human too. They possessed capabilities to feel the same emotions as you do, and they desire to be heard as well. So, do not just "trash" out your emotions on them.

    Then comes another question that you may ask is," What about toys or objects, isn't consider appropriate?" Well, to a certain extend, yes. Because objects and toys do not possess the ability to feel emotions or pain. However, when you are venting your emotions psychically, it tells another story. This is because venting out psychically could result in spontaneous behavior. In other words, when a person has a habit of punching an object as a way of venting out emotions, the next time the person' emotional threshold has reached its' peak, that person has a higher chance of unconsciously punching the next closest thing to them which could be an object or unfortunately, a human. Hence, psychically venting out your emotions is never the best way to express your feelings.

    The best and the most ideal way of venting out your emotions is through conversing with someone who is a proactive listener or social media where the methods are harmless. However, it is up to you to find, explore, and decide on the various ways of how you want to shrug your emotions off your shoulders. For me personally, the best way that suits my personality is to pause, reflect, apologize (if necessary), and talk or write about it. I make sure that by the time I talk about my emotions, my feelings would have settled down. If not, whoever is listening to my emotions may end up carrying it. Hence, to prevent it, I prefer to speak about it when I am more calm and collective. Therefore, find your own way to take out your trash in a harmless way.